Girl advice - OT knows best

[FALLENLEGION]

So here is the back story to my problems that are literally sending my life into a hell hole.

I had met this cute girl and we had been on a couple of dates, hooked up a few times, ect ect. She really seemed into me and i was extremely happy a good turn of events came my way.

Last night we went to a toga dance, we drank a little bit of alcohol, but she is much more of a lightweight than me. First thing she does when we get there is bolt away from me to the dance doors since we didn't have to pay. I quickly follow suite and go inside after her. Not 10 minutes later did i find her dancing with other guys. I was crushed, defeated, brought down on my knees; i don't know how to describe this feeling besides those words.

I see some best friends and end up telling them my story. They told me to calm down, and said its not like she is hooking up with anyone. I end up going to the bathroom and bam she was hooking up with some guy in the ****ing stalls, she doesn't see me, but I see her. I end up going back to my car and drowning myself with Jack Daniels.

When I go home i just pass out on my bed basically brought down to the lowest I have ever been in all the years i have lived. Here i am now, just waking up and waiting to see how this day turns out.

Any advise/cheer up things?

[Ph3noM]

Well, if you still want her go for it, it's not like you lost her because she hooked up with some random guy when she was drunk.

You got the upper hand most likely as you probably know her a bit more than this random who probably just was a one night stand anyway.

I almost made the mistake of not going after the girl of my dreams, I kept fighting, and I ended up being the good guy that gets the girl, so be the good guy, go after her, fight for her, show her that you want her, show her that she is a woman and that you are a man, tell her that she is was pushes you to rise up in the morning, to go through the day, tell her that she is the one and only thing that you would die for.


So if you want to blame yourself do it, or if you actually want her, call her, meet her, date her, tea-bag her, tie her up, whatever floats your boat.

[B00se]

Stop fap idiot !

[Sam`]

Stop being a ****ing *****. She is a whore. Get over it.

[ProfessorOak]

You shouldn't be chasing girls, they should be chasing you. You have 1700+ PSR and attend toga parties, this is my mind makes you a PLAYER. So either be the man and seduce her with some OTT romantic/creepy gesture or cut your losses.

Well you don't have to do that, but that doesn't mean all is lost. Put yourself in her position, would you have passed up an opportunity if some smoking toga girl started hitting on you? Maybe, maybe not, but even if the latter is the case you'd be tempted. She's got urges, powerful woman urges, and urges need satisfying. Take the initiative, know that you're the man, and not just a man, a bad as mother ****er.

Now drop and give me 20.

This incoherent post is brought to you from the school of Silvio Berlusconi.

[Nicksan]

...ect ect...

stopped at the misspelling of et cetera

[InbredMule]

How is she a whore? It sounds like she feels bad for the guy, so she was taking him out to have some fun. I think leaving you immediately is kinda stupid, but I mean she DID have drinks with you.

Are you physically attractive? Did you foot the bill? What car do you drive? Because sadly hotness in a city is generally proportional to shallowness. I read and you said, cute... sucks for you bro. =P

Don't call her back.. please tell me you haven't called /texted her?

[ProfessorOak]

what does "hooking up" actually entail?

also drop and give me 20

no seriously do it

[Gohka]

Stop fap idiot !
Best advice.

[FALLENLEGION]

I just did 20, hooking up meaning got the D sucked.

And i haven't called her or begged her back cause i am a man, man.

1700+ psr and attends toga parties is the best quote of the century.

I drive a 2010 tahoe hybrid

[Atrim3ntus]

I don't think you'd want a girl like that, they're only good for sex.

(And before someone gives me the 'respect women' speech, I'm talking about a type of girl that acts that certain way, not women in general)

[NC]

So she danced with some other guys and you overreacted like a beta phaggot?...

Am I missing something?

[Nolifer]

You shouldn't be chasing girls, they should be chasing you. You have 1700+ PSR and attend toga parties, this is my mind makes you a PLAYER. So either be the man and seduce her with some OTT romantic/creepy gesture or cut your losses.

Well you don't have to do that, but that doesn't mean all is lost. Put yourself in her position, would you have passed up an opportunity if some smoking toga girl started hitting on you? Maybe, maybe not, but even if the latter is the case you'd be tempted. She's got urges, powerful woman urges, and urges need satisfying. Take the initiative, know that you're the man, and not just a man, a bad as mother ****er.

Now drop and give me 20.

This incoherent post is brought to you from the school of Silvio Berlusconi.
Oak, you're my favourite poster on this forum.

[Inri]

Oak, you're my favourite poster on this forum.
He's quite witty, but he is really bad at not taking my last hits.

[Vexium]

Stop being a ****ing *****. She is a whore. Get over it.

unfortunately, this is more than likely the case.

be aware that there are indeed women who will use and abuse you for drinks and a drive to where they wanna go and proceed to neglect you entirely once you've arrived at the club, the party, etc.

don't be stupid. tell that ***** to **** off.

next time make sure your next date out sticks to you like glue the entire time, and insist upon it. make her your *****...

of course this is only the course of action you would take if you expect her to act similarly to how this one did to you.

each girl has her own style - it's up to you to find wtf they are up to and do it before u buy them drinks and drive them around for free.

tl;dr: you got used

[ProfessorOak]

He's quite witty, but he is really bad at not taking my last hits.
gj feeding that torture last game ofc I take your last hits


Oak, you're my favourite poster on this forum.
<3

[LegoPirate]

meh, be happy she did this now rather then 6 months into a relationship.

[Vexium]

meh, be happy she did this now rather then 6 months into a relationship.

so true :poll:

[Lethe]

Hooking up is such a vague term.

A lot of girls out there though are incredibly deceptive and self-centered. It's up to you to realize this and make the right move.

It's kinda sad but hilarious at the same time watching some of my friends get their balls squeezed by their gfs. Those people who can't control their gfs at all, I pity them as people will walk all over them in life, and unfortunately for them there are people like me that know how to take advantage of their situation.

There are a lot of puppets in this world, don't be one, Alpha male personalities basically enjoy the most success in life.

[InbredMule]

Hooking up is such a vague term.

A lot of girls out there though are incredibly deceptive and self-centered. It's up to you to realize this and make the right move.

It's kinda sad but hilarious at the same time watching some of my friends get their balls squeezed by their gfs. Those people who can't control their gfs at all, I pity them as people will walk all over them in life, and unfortunately for them there are people like me that know how to take advantage of their situation.

There are a lot of puppets in this world, don't be one, Alpha male personalities basically enjoy the most success in life.

This man knows what's up

[FALLENLEGION]

Hooking up is such a vague term.

A lot of girls out there though are incredibly deceptive and self-centered. It's up to you to realize this and make the right move.

It's kinda sad but hilarious at the same time watching some of my friends get their balls squeezed by their gfs. Those people who can't control their gfs at all, I pity them as people will walk all over them in life, and unfortunately for them there are people like me that know how to take advantage of their situation.

There are a lot of puppets in this world, don't be one, Alpha male personalities basically enjoy the most success in life.

I stated what my view of "hook up" was, but I can see where you are coming from. I'm just gonna man up and if she comes back to me leave her in the ditch crying.

[Vexium]

I stated what my view of "hook up" was, but I can see where you are coming from. I'm just gonna man up and if she comes back to me leave her in the ditch crying.

sometimes that will make her keep crawling, depending if she actually liked you enough... best card to play at this point

[Q_efx]

Dont talk, just **** her! Man if you think she likes you, get or try it. What could happen? But thats the problem today guys have. Internet is easy to "try" but realife is so hard. So what happend at this night? Someone tried it and got her, finish....

Oh and btw: Womans are *****es, get used to it :)

[wikkedwhite]

That was your girl I was with?!? **** my bad, she was a good fuk though, hope she walks str8 again

[InbredMule]

If she asks, it didn't bother you. Tell her you actually hooked up with someone else too.

[miq]

Start using old spice...

[Flair]

Good luck with it.

[Lethe]

If she asks, it didn't bother you. Tell her you actually hooked up with someone else too.

omg yes excellent point, can't believe I failed to mention it. Do this, even if it isn't true, and see how she reacts.

There is something strange about woman, how upset they can get if you beat them at their own game. Play this card, and shortly after you will know for sure whether she is worth your time.

If she buckles, then it's up to you to decide whether to forgive and take her back, in which case you can easily take over the relationship as the dominant partner. If she holds her ground, then it's up to you to decide if you want to follow through with this "relationship", and judging by your OP I think it's pretty obvious what the answer is.

I've been exposed to a lot of girls since high school, all with different personalities, and for that, I am incredibly grateful, because I know now who is worth my time and who is not. I remember when I thought looks were everything, how naive I was. I will not be one of those guys who is controlled by his gf. Any woman I end up going out with will not only be a hottie, but will also know how to take care of herself, someone who won't text/call me whenever something remotely wrong happens in their life. I've been down that path before, and I'm not going to make the same mistake again.

No one calls me a romantic or sap, but I don't mind, because I think with my head, not my heart.

[FALLENLEGION]

omg yes excellent point, can't believe I failed to mention it. Do this, even if it isn't true, and see how she reacts.

There is something strange about woman, how upset they can get if you beat them at their own game. Play this card, and shortly after you will know for sure whether she is worth your time.

If she buckles, then it's up to you to decide whether to forgive and take her back, in which case you can easily take over the relationship as the dominant partner. If she holds her ground, then it's up to you to decide if you want to follow through with this "relationship", and judging by your OP I think it's pretty obvious what the answer is.

I've been exposed to a lot of girls since high school, all with different personalities, and for that, I am incredibly grateful, because I know now who is worth my time and who is not. I remember when I thought looks were everything, how naive I was. I will not be one of those guys who is controlled by his gf. Any woman I end up going out with will not only be a hottie, but will also know how to take care of herself, someone who won't text/call me whenever something remotely wrong happens in their life. I've been down that path before, and I'm not going to make the same mistake again.

No one calls me a romantic or sap, but I don't mind, because I think with my head, not my heart.

Whats funny, is afterwards to forget her, went to some afterparty and some girl was all over me and I got her number

[Lethe]

boom nice work sir u learn fast

[Gohka]

Just pull a Ph3nom and **** her until you knock her up, then ignore her calls.
He's my roll model.

[BlanketGhost]

That's reason why I like cute quiet girls who almost always kept to herself and like being alone. :D

[Otolia]

GUYS, she kissed another random dude while drunk. Maybe S his D, so what ? It's not like she was your official or anything ...

I've seen a lot lot lot worse ! If you like/love her, cherish her and if you don't, then give up. It's not like she will be the last girl you'll ever had.

[Colinthetank]

Girl sounds like a Grade A slut. Go find some other biddie (she can be hot, ugly, fugly or even fat) and **** her good to bring yourself back up. Then dump the biddie completely and go jump back on the horse and find a new girl.

[Otolia]

Girl sounds like a Grade A slut. Go find some other biddie (she can be hot, ugly, fugly or even fat) and **** her good to bring yourself back up. Then dump the biddie completely and go jump back on the horse and find a new girl.

Typical reasoning from someone who has never been in love ... or get laid for that matter !

[Vexium]

Typical reasoning from someone who has never been in love ... or get laid for that matter !

rofl... typical reasoning from someone who gets abused to get laid... or any action, for that matter!

[Otolia]

rofl... typical reasoning from someone who gets abused to get laid... or any action, for that matter!

Me do no understand what you say ?!

[Sunshiner]

Stop giving two shits about women seriously

They aren't interesting, no need for them unless they do all the household **** for you.

[Vexium]

Me do no understand what you say ?!

firstly, i'm saying that who you quoted was not wrong at all and it's a pretty typical attitude towards women; at least in the US.

secondly, i'm saying sucking up to the girl is not always the answer. most of the time, you want to come on almost aggressively or non-chalantly strong, so that either:

A) she knows your time is too valuable to waste with small-talk
and/or
B) she knows you are a stud who's always getting the attention of girls like her

[Otolia]

firstly, i'm saying that who you quoted was not wrong at all and it's a pretty typical attitude towards women; at least in the US.

secondly, i'm saying sucking up to the girl is not always the answer. most of the time, you want to come on almost aggressively or non-chalantly strong, so that either:

A) she knows your time is too valuable to waste with small-talk
and/or
B) she knows you are a stud who's always getting the attention of girls like her

I hope for yourself you are genuinly joking. Nonetheless you have never been in love otherwise you would know that this attitude is the worst kind to have when your GF is flirting with someone else.

Insecurity is what defines USA.

[Sordak]

wow

what a senseles sthread that we already had a million times.

like its so hard talking to your GF. tell her to stop doing that or just end it big deal? Girls are Humans too.

btw: Lethe is right. you can deny it as much as you want. The Alpha male will always get what he wants, and he will surpass you in anything you do, he will get your girl, he will the better job than you and hes not only getting this becausse he looks more handsome, even if people are telling you this. thats how the humanity works, thats how all herd animals work. The Alpha male will always be the winner, and the other ones will just be the tools he is using to get his goals.

so you can either step up and be in controll, or become the minion of the sucess of others.
On the other hand, its hard to become something you arent, if you are born as a follower, you will stay a follower, if you are born as a leader, you will stay a leader. The faster you understand that the easier it gets.

think of a carry in HoN: you will support him and help him when he is weak by giving him the chance to push his self esteem and his dominance, but he will always get all the kills (sex) even if you did most of the work (with the girl) but in the end he will lead his team (depending, the nation, the tribe, your group of friends) to victory and earn all the fame, while you will keep supporting him.

i love how cruel life is

[FruityBooty]

Drunken words are sober thoughts.

Ditch her, she isn't worth your time, nor does she think you're worth hers. Hooking up with someone else in the bathroom while going to a dance initially with you? Thats not the type of girl you would want.

[FALLENLEGION]

Just took the alpha male advise, manned up, went to some party last night, got the D sucked.

Thanks OT

[Lethe]

Yea no problem dude.

I have a pretty "cold" vibe in RL (and it probably kinda shows in these forums as well) because I am brutally honest and subtle. A lot of people think I am not willing to help others, they couldn't be more wrong, I am willing to help people who are willing to take the initiative to help themselves, and there are a lot of people who won't even do this.

I don't believe that followers will stay followers and leaders will stay leaders. I was actually a really shy kid when I was in elementary/junior high school, which I attribute to my traits of asperger syndrome. Even in high school / early years of university I was a follower.

I don't know what changed over the last few years. I think it was because after 20 years of following I have finally seen enough of life to take control for myself. The people I try to associate myself with now are people that "get it", that is, they have the tools and knowledge to succeed in life no matter what life throws their way. This is usually a mix of connections from work, or those people who are so charismatic that people just glue to them...you know who these people are, they are the ones who will update their fb status and get 10 comments within a few hours.

The best part about my new personality is that I am an extremely subtle alpha male. People don't expect it because I've been a follower most of my life. Being an alpha male, unfortunately, but true, has a lot to do with manipulation. For those of you who watch criminal minds, you will be familiar with the term 'profiling'. In this sense, it basically means studying people in a short time frame to figure out how they work. 'Profiling' people I met was the key tool that helped me become an alpha male. You ask people questions, watch their response, watch their body language. It is a necessary tool though, and basically psyc 101 for any alpha male.

I can walk into a party, not hook up with a single girl (talking to them is enough) and people will get the impression that I am a stud. It is purely a psychological thing.

A word of advice, not just for this topic, but for life in general. The best thing you can do is to get into the heads of the people of everyone around you: their needs, wants, fears, thoughts, etc, and act accordingly. Most people only know how they themselves work. If you know how other people work, especially those people around you, you will see results. Why am I considered among my friends one of the most guarded people? Same as other alpha males. We don't want to be profiled.

[InbredMule]

http://www.tuckermax.com/stories/

[Gohka]

I hope for yourself you are genuinly joking. Nonetheless you have never been in love otherwise you would know that this attitude is the worst kind to have when your GF is flirting with someone else.

Insecurity is what defines USA.
It's funny how wrong you are.

[Vexium]

I hope for yourself you are genuinly joking. Nonetheless you have never been in love otherwise you would know that this attitude is the worst kind to have when your GF is flirting with someone else.

Insecurity is what defines USA.

actually i was once in a relationship where everything we did with each other made each other fall more madly in love. it was ecstasy for two years straight. we both cheated on each other a couple of times, but were ashamed of it and that made us even more in love. when you have a girl like that, you become a gentleman, even if you aren't one.

twas not meant to last though. both of us moved away from hometown :\ i suppose some day we will see each other again, but neither of us like the idea of a long-term relationship. shame because i think we both would be willing to marry each other, but... well, i might go find her one day, so i won't say more.

anyway, OP is not talking about some girl he's loved for months or dated for even many weeks. this is some girl he was going to take out for the night, and she screwed him over.

situation's way different.

[ProfessorOak]

I lost my heart to her hazel eyes, her beautiful mind. I lived for her, and she lived for me. Together we took on the world - nothing could stop us! Then one day she left me. My heart was torn into a thousand shreds. I was left a hollow empty shell of a man. As the days turned to weeks, and weeks into months, I'd charm any woman who caught my eye, hopelessly trying to rekindle the burning desire that once consumed me. As seduction became my life, my skills soon honed to perfection - relentless unemotional sex. I can have any woman I please, but there could only ever be one - no one else compares. Now I spend my lonely days browsing various video game forums, passing on my knowledge of women, so others may love, for I can not.

R.I.P Jill. Queen of OT. Queen of my heart.

[Gohka]

Eloquent.

[Colinthetank]

Typical reasoning from someone who has never been in love ... or get laid for that matter !

lolololollolooololololol

[Otolia]

It's funny how wrong you are.

Maybe I'm but for nerds to speak of alpha male ... that is a HUGE facepalm. I guess my culture is extremely different.


I lost my heart to her hazel eyes, her beautiful mind. I lived for her, and she lived for me. Together we took on the world - nothing could stop us! Then one day she left me. My heart was torn into a thousand shreds. I was left a hollow empty shell of a man. As the days turned to weeks, and weeks into months, I'd charm any woman who caught my eye, hopelessly trying to rekindle the burning desire that once consumed me. As seduction became my life, my skills soon honed to perfection - relentless unemotional sex. I can have any woman I please, but there could only ever be one - no one else compares. Now I spend my lonely days browsing various video game forums, passing on my knowledge of women, so others may love, for I can not.

R.I.P Jill. Queen of OT. Queen of my heart.

Story of my life !


lolololollolooololololol

:'(


actually i was once in a relationship where everything we did with each other made each other fall more madly in love. it was ecstasy for two years straight. we both cheated on each other a couple of times, but were ashamed of it and that made us even more in love. when you have a girl like that, you become a gentleman, even if you aren't one.

twas not meant to last though. both of us moved away from hometown :\ i suppose some day we will see each other again, but neither of us like the idea of a long-term relationship. shame because i think we both would be willing to marry each other, but... well, i might go find her one day, so i won't say more.

anyway, OP is not talking about some girl he's loved for months or dated for even many weeks. this is some girl he was going to take out for the night, and she screwed him over.

situation's way different.

She screwed him over -> he was mad -> he posted on HoN forums -> some pity him, others start explaining stuff about alpha male ...

Am I really the only one that see a fail in this ?

[Sauron`]

I havent read everyones reponses, nor do I know how old OP is.
But it really comes down to two things, If girls are "acting that way" which if you were both getting drunk at a dance she's still in her "*****" phase. You can either A. Be alpha male and take control of her, ya you'll be kinda a dick....but it does work.

or B. you can wait, until she's mature.

This is exactly why I won't date anyone thats not above 23 or at least gotten her party girl "phase" out of the way, it's WAYYY to unpredictable. Im not a shy guy by any means, but I really dont want to deal with an unpredictable woman. You would be surprised what a few years can change in a woman.

[Chemas]

Girls girls girls, hmfmph. Get some good weed and simply play HoN, the best thing for you to do. I am serious when writing this, get some weed and play HON!

Regards, Shemale Chemas.

[Sordak]

well of course its not impossible to become an alpha.


but its hard, because what people think of you is what they make you. If people believe you are a looser, they will not give you a chance. Even if they dont even understand it, somewhere in their brain they marked you as a whimp.

a good thing to start a new life is meeting new people

[Lethe]

meh true i was a pretty big loser in high school

Now though I get nothing but respect and reverance, and the people who thought poorly of me, well, I rly have no use for them.

6 billion people in this world so yea

[wiLson]

Ditch her, she isn't worth your time, nor does she think you're worth hers. Hooking up with someone else in the bathroom while going to a dance initially with you? Thats not the type of girl you would want.

TL DR:


. She is a whore. Get over it.
:succ:

[Nizzy]

**** rock that fudge and leave a post'it note on the mother saying thank you

[Jayschwa]

Any advise/cheer up things?
Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Better to find out the hard way only after a couple dates than after being in a relationship for a long time.

[BrownBanana]

Thats one of them girls ur allowed to pound her throat and nog have to spend 60 bucks on when ur done.